#MythbusterMonday : the truth and lies about virginity.


Hello, dear readers! Today is the day I wanted to talk to you about something which you most likely had awkward conversations about with you parents. Losing virginity, popping the cherry – call it what you want but it was always such a huge mystery, at least during my childhood. I could never understand why you “had to” do it with someone only after wedding, why it would be so painful and why the heck, if that was so painful, someone would want to have sex again. After all the talk my parents gave me (which, honestly, wasn’t a lot) I started to think that first sex must be some kind of nightmare-ish experience. Only later in life I realized that those things were big, fat lies that most parents are used to telling their daughters in 21st century w slutin which slut shaming is completely okay. God forbid, if a woman will lose her virginity before marriage and actually enjoy sex, or have more than one sex partner during her lifetime.

Why am I telling this to you? I’m telling this to clear some lies all the people, who haven’t had sex yet might believe in and spread sex positivity. Sex talk shouldn’t be awkward and first sex shouldn’t be scary and painful. Thankfully, I learned the truth about virginity before losing mine and it definitely made my life way easier. Side note: I will lose the phrase “losing virginity” and the word “virginity” in quotation marks because that’s not even a thing. Believe me, it’s not. It’s just a construct society created. If you’re thirsty for more explanation, let’s dive right in!

  1. First time for a girl is always painful and probably bloody, too. Oh, hell no! No matter what your mother, sister or whoever has told you – that is not true. If first time hurts, you’re probably doing something wrong. Maybe he’s too rough, maybe there wasn’t enough foreplay, so you’re not wet enough or maybe you’re not relaxed enough. If you are worrying about not getting wet enough naturally, don’t be afraid to use lube. Go slow the first time and be vocal, if something doesn’t feel right!
  2. Hymen covers vagina completely and, when you “lose your virginity”, you break it. Wrong. First of all, hymens are different: there are normal, septate (two vaginal openings instead of one), microperforate (small vaginal opening) and imperforate (hymen completely covers vagina) hymens. In a standard case, you hymen will just stretch out, not break. So, that explains why most likely your first time won’t be painful, if you’re doing everything right. Also, if the hymen would cover your vagina completely, how would you menstruate properly?
  3. Hymen is located inside of your vagina. No, it partially covers the vaginal opening. The thing with this myth is – even a lot of dudes believe in this. What a shame. Why this isn’t something that is explained in Sex Ed?
  4. You can only “lose virginity” by being penetrated. This was confusing to me the whole time. I couldn’t understand, if that’s how a girl loses virginity, how do lesbians lose their virginity then? Do they keep it forever? Maybe it’s possible to lose V-card by getting fingered? Too much confusion in here. That was until I realized that first sex technically is no different from any other time you have sex. Well, except for the fact that it’s your very first experience and you don’t know that well what to do and what not to do.
  5. “Losing virginity” is only acceptable with you spouse. Why, though? How does a paper and a ring change someone’s rights to engage into sexual activity with me or not? Why does marriage matter? Sex is not a sin and something you should feel ashamed about. There are few things you should take into consideration before having sex with someone for the first time but marriage is not one of them. (Sorry, Christians, I didn’t mean to offend you!) If you feel comfortable with someone, know them well enough, maybe are even in love with them and want to go for it, do it! Just don’t forget about protection.
  6. “Doing it” changes your life a lot. No, not really. You’ve just discovered something very enjoyable, that’s it. And maybe, just maybe, gained a tiny bit of confidence and lots of extra naughty thoughts in your head.
  7. You can’t use tampons, if you’re a “virgin”. Look at the second myth. Your hymen probably doesn’t completely cover your vagina, so you can actually use tampons before you have “done the deed”. Although, at ages 11 to 14 that might be slightly uncomfortable, so, if you want to use those, go with smaller ones. Either way – you can’t “pop your cherry” with tampon because, as I said, virginity is not a physical thing. It’s just a construct society has created.
  8. Having sex with someone before marriage doesn’t make you dirty or a slut. Don’t believe what society say. Your sexuality is a part of you that you should embrace, instead of being ashamed about it. If you want to have sex with someone, do it! If you want to wait until your first love or marriage, do that!

So here are all the myths about virginity I’ve heard during my early teen years. I even believed in some of those and they confused the hell out of me. I just wish someone would have told be the truth from the very beginning. That wouldn’t make me start having sex earlier but it would make everything clearer.

In a nutshell, virginity is not a physical thing – it’s a social construct that was created to control women and what they do with their bodies. If you have sex, there is no definite way to tell, if you’re a “virgin” or not. If you want to have sex with someone – go for it, as long as you’re safe. If you don’t – that’s fine. Don’t feel pressured by your peers. Only you should decide what to do and what not to do with your body. Just because someone starts having sex at the age of 15, doesn’t mean you have to do the same. Do what feels right for you and always use protection.

Until next time on Dolls Have Hearts!

Love, Porcelain Doll.

5 amazing tips that will increase your productivity instantly.

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Hello, dear readers! If you are anything like me, you have had big goals as long as you can remember. However, there might be times when you feel tired, unmotivated and just want to procrastinate. Well, you are not the only one, I tend to struggle with this, too. So I decided to take some time to observe and analyze my own behaviour during those times and figure out, how to get out of it. Here are 5 amazing tips I came up with that increased my productivity instantly and can increase yours, too!

  1. Make sure your room / workspace is warm enough. One odd thing I noticed – if it’s too cold in my room, all I want to do is sit under comfy blankets, watch TV series and procrastinate. For a while I didn’t even notice that this is a problem but when I finally did, I realized it’s time to turn that heater on, get out of my bed and get stuff done.
  2. Make sure you don’t have lowered blood pressure. If you do, get some coffee. This is a huge one for me. I used to feel tired almost every day for years and couldn’t figure out why. One day my doctor told me that it might be because most of the time I have lowered blood pressure. That turned out to be the reason why I wanted to sleep most of the time and felt exhausted. How did I fight this? Simple, with coffee. I know that some people are pretty skeptical about it, mostly because of the thing called “caffeine hangover” which tends to have similar effects as alcohol hangover. I experienced only once in my life, after about 5 or 6 cups of coffee when I really wanted to be creative & productive. So, friendly advice – don’t drink more than 3 cups of coffee a day.
  3. Make a to do list. This might be such a cliché but it actually helps me. Every morning I make to do list and try to cross out aismany things as possible that day. Somehow it us super fun for me. And, as someone, who used to struggle with depression, this is a great thing for me. Now I can realistically look back at what I have done that day and say: “Wow, I was very productive today!”Create a Girlboss (or Guyboss) playlist. It’s crazy how much music can affect your mood. If I have some sad, calm songs in the background, I honestly feel like crying instead of getting stuff done. Sad music might be acceptable only when I’m painting or drawing (sometimes). In case you need some ideas about songs that will make you feel pumped, check out my “Playlist of a Girlboss” on Spotify here:
  4. Stop over thinking and complaining, just start doing it. It’s crazy, how much time we spend wondering, if we should really do something and trying to find reasons for procrastination or not doing it at all. The best way, how to do something is just to get up and do it. Turn off all the thoughts that make you want to procrastinate or doubt yourself and just get to work!
  5. Plan a day or few every month for relaxation or a quick getaway. It doesn’t matter, if you go to school, work or do both – this routine can be exhausting. Every week is pretty much the same and, especially if you have to do something on weekends, burnout can become a real threat when you don’t plan some time for recharging. Only since September I planned some “off days” in my monthly schedule and it has been very helpful. My stress levels are not as high anymore and I don’t get ill as often.

Those are all the productivity tips I have for you today, that I have tried myself. It would be easy just to look something up on the internet but sharing my experience seems way more genuine. Have you tried any of these productivity tips? Or maybe you have your own favorite productivity tips? Share in the comment section!

Until next time on dollshavehearts.com !

Love, Porcelain Doll.

“Younger” – awesome must watch TV series that will make you addicted.

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I don’t own the picture, it’s taken from: http://s1.zetaboards.com/L_Anon/topic/4626270/262/ and slightly edited.

Hello, dear readers! Are you obsessed with watching TV series? I was not for a while, probably because I haven’t found any that would keep me hooked longer than just for a season or two. You know, how it always starts – first few episodes of first season tend to be mind-blowing. If you’re lucky then the whole first season is pretty awesome. After that, if the show isn’t cancelled yet, things slowly start to die off. Take for an example series, called “No tomorrow”. (Spoiler alert!) The girl falls in love with a perfect guy, who, turns out, believes that the world is going to end very soon. Fast forward a little – they’re dating and living life, like there’s no tomorrow, doing one thing every day that they have always wanted to do. Boom! That’s it, they could have ended these series at first season because the second was a complete torture. Anyways, back to the topic – let’s get to review of “Younger” which was surprisingly exciting to watch.

If you prefer to watch the trailer before you continue reading this post, I’ll insert it here:


I found out these TV series only about 3 weeks ago and during this time period I have finished all 4 seasons that have been aired. That’s how addicting “Younger” actually was. Here’s the short summary of  these series: the main character is Liza Miller – a 40 years old mom, who’s recently separated from her husband David and decided get back to work in publishing industry. However, after such huge break it seems impossible to pick it back where it started cause no one wants to hire her because of her age. Her best friend and roommate Maggie suggests Liza to lie about her age to get hired and surprisingly that works. Soon Liza starts working at Empirical as an 26 years old assistant. From that point this innocent idea turns into a huge web of lies and makes it hard balance her 26-year-old and 40-year-old lives. She falls in love with 26 years old tattoo artist Josh and becomes friends with Empirical editor Kelsey (Hilary Duff, who’s the same age. So, basically this one small, white lie creates seemingly perfect life that can go crashing down any moment, if the truth comes out.


Okay, maybe that was not such a short summary of the TV series but, while not wanting to give everything away, I wanted to give you a small peek into events of “Younger”. Now, as I am going to review the show, following text will contain some spoilers. I’m going to start with something I really enjoyed. I don’t want to sound like a fan girl but the fact that Hilary Duff is casting in this is exciting itself. It’s nice to see that she’s far from awkward Lizzie McGuire character (which I was never a fan of) and doing amazing job in “Younger”. I couldn’t  imagine anyone, who could portray Kelsey Peters better. Kelsey’s jerk boyfriend Thad (Dan Amboyer) on the other hand, who appeared in first 2 seasons of “Younger”, was the most annoying character ever. At first he just appeared as an alcoholic and a manwhore but later on blackmailed Liza about revealing her true identity to everyone, if she tells Kelsey that Thad has been cheating. But thankfully he dies in season 2 and we can continue (almost) happily ever after without him.



Now let’s talk about my favorite male character in “Younger”. No, it was not Josh. Even though he appeared to be very sweet at the beginning, after some time this dude started to seem very immature. Especially after Liza’s boss Charles(Peter Hermann) , who’s in his 40’s, too, starts appearing more and becomes her love interest. What I liked about Liza’s and Charles’ relationships is that it evolved almost painfully slow. After 4 seasons all they shared was just few kisses (instead of sharing the bed) and the chemistry seemed so real, it took my breath away. Honestly, I patiently watched every episode, hoping that they will finally become a couple that hasn’t happened yet… And that’s why it’s so brilliant for the plot – the struggle is so real. Also, maybe it’s just me but I feel like Liza is way more compatible with Charles than she is with Josh. And no, not just because of the age differences.


Anyways, enough spoilers; I think it’s time for you to get the full taste of “Younger” and start watching it. No other TV series of the same genre I’ve seen are as good. Also, do you know what’s the best thing? You can probably watch this with your mum or older sister and you both will be entertained. No more dying from boredom while your mum watches cheesy romantic dramas. Now you can offer her some quality content!

Until next time on dollshavehearts.com when I’ll have some new and exciting content prepared for you!

P.S. I don’t own any of the GIFs posted, they’re taken from google.


Love, Porcelain Doll.

#GirlbossSeries: How to create kickass morning routine.

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Hello, dear readers! Have you ever dreamed about living happy and organized life? Most likely you have. But have you ever tried to plan everything and just live the life you want? I bet there will be two types of answers to this question: “No, not really.” and “Yes, but it didn’t work out for me.” No matter which answer did you pick, you still have a chance to take one step closer to living your dream life. At the beginning we will be starting out small, so that’s why today I decided to talk about creating a morning routine.

“But what’s a morning routine? Don’t I already have one?” Those are the questions you may ask. Well, if your morning routine includes snoozing the alarm at least five times, hoping out of bed the very last minute and skipping breakfast, then no – you don’t. To have an amazing life, you need to start with making your day awesome. Firsyou have to start it the right way. Morning routine isn’t only about getting dressed and making coffee. It’s way more than that. To give you an insight into this, I will share some things that you could include in your own morning routine.

  • Write. If you’re a blogger or a writer like me, morning is the best time to write. Your mind isn’t cluttered with daily worries yet and you’re just one coffee cup away from getting into your “getting shit done” mode. So try to set aside at least 15 minutes in the morning to get some writing done.
  • Exercise. You have probably heard a lot about morning yoga, running in the morning etc. Pick any type of physical activity that makes your heart beat faster and body move. If you don’t want to include exercising in your morning, you can make it a part of evening routine.
  • Write something in your journal. This one is very similar to the first idea, however, you don’t have to be a writer to write in a journal. This is for your personal well-being. Just reserve some time in the morning to write everything that is on your mind, things that you are thankful for etc.
  • Make some coffee or tea to take with you. It seems like no-brainer to some people but have you ever thought how much money you spend when you buy coffee or tea in a coffee shop? Just make a hot drink in the morning, pour it into you thermos and you are good to go.
  • Make your bed. Another no-brainer but it is nice to do it right away, so when you come home, you don’t return to messy rat’s nest.
  • Read few pages of a book. Just few months ago I unpleasantly surprised myself with the fact that I could not find a time to read. At all. I used to be such a bookworm in elementary school, I barely could put a book away but then high school happened. Most evenings I was too tired after school that I went straight to bed. However, I missed reading too much, so I created a morning routine in a form of a checklist and included reading in it, too.
  • Wash your face. Especially, if you are a teenager and have a problematic skin like I do. I never had a time for some complicated skin care routine but as soon as I started washing my face every morning with some face cleansing gel, my skin got way better.
  • Plan your day. It’s your choice, if you decide to plan your day in the morning or in the evening before but I highly suggest you to do it. Planning not only makes you get more stuff done but also makes you feel better about yourself when you have completed the tasks and seen, how much you have done.
  • Take a shower. For some people it helps to feel more refreshed and ready for a new day. For me it only puts in my “I am ready to go back to sleep” mode. Take a risk – maybe morning shower is all you need to be the best version of yourself for the rest of the day.
  • Have a cup of coffee. This is a suggestion for those poor people just like me, who have low blood pressure all the time and, if they don’t get their daily dose of caffeine, they might as well cast in Walking Dead.
  • Watch Girlboss series type of video on Youtube. Just one video can inspire you for the whole day if not longer. My favorite Youtubers, who post a lot of girlboss aka boss babe related stuff are Hannah Ashton , Kalyn Nicholson  and Nika Erculj . Just don’t get caught up, they are pretty addicting!

Now that I have shared the most popular ideas for your morning routine, it’s time to make it. You don’t have to include everything I mentioned in this post, just pick whatever is closer to your heart. The main goal of a morning routine is to prepare you emotionally and physically for a productive day. Stay awesome and see you on my next post on dollshavehearts.com !

Love, Porcelain Doll.

Blog update: dollshavehearts.com will be launched soon!


Hello, dear readers! You’ve probably been wondering where have I gone and why is my blog so inactive. Of course, like I mentioned in one of my previous posts, I’ve been very busy with school and work which, honestly, sometimes tends to suck all the creativity out of me. However, I recently decided to quit one of my jobs, so I’ll be working there only until the middle of December and after that I will have more free time. Why did I decide to quit? That’s kind of a long story but I decided that if, no matter how dedicated I was to the job, someone in a higher position repeatedly treats me like shit by not helping me with things I don’t understand, slandering me, telling me how terrible I am at doing my job and yelling at me, I don’t need to endure it. Enough about the job for now, I might go in depth about it in some of my future posts but right now I will tell you what I have in mind for this blog for 2018.

I finally feel ready to make this blog more professional, interesting and successful. I am planning to upgrade it to WordPress Premium, start being active on all of my social media accounts, which include Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram and most importantly – post lots of exciting content. I have finally figured out who exactly I am writing this blog for, what I am writing about and why I am even writing it. So – great news, this blog is going to get a huge upgrade and start looking like one of those neat, pretty lifestyle blogs that are full of great content. The estimated relaunch of Dolls Have Hearts is planned on January 1st but let’s see how it goes.

For now I am going to focus on getting blog ready for the relaunch. I have to write enough posts for at least a month forward to publish and I’ll try my best to post at least 2 times a week in 2018. At the moment I am super guilty about writing my blog posts the very last minute and even though the quality is good, I don’t have any posts scheduled for the future and that messes with my consistency. I also have to think about the way site looks and figure out the content to post on social media. If you’re a blogger, you already know, how important it is to stay active on social media and post not only your recent blog content but also other things your audience might be interested in. So, just because I have to do a lot of preparation, there might be very few or no posts at all this year. Don’t be sad – better content is yet to come!

If you have any suggestions about what you’d like to see more of on this blog or if you have anything important to note about upgrading your blog, monetizing it and making exciting for the readers, feel free to comment below! I’ve read a lot of information on how to build a successful blog but some extra advice won’t hurt. Also, if you’re a blogger, who recently relaunched and/or monetized your site, share your experience in the comments! I will really appreciate it.

P.S. Thank you all for following my blog and interracting in the comment section. It means the world to me that my opinion is important to you and that my view of life is relatable.

Love, Porcelain Doll.


“M.F.A.” movie review.

M.F.A movie review

Hello, dear readers and followers! I’m finally back with another blog post and it’s something a little different that I usually post here. Not many of you might know that but I’m a huge movie buff. I’m addicted to watching movies. And no, not just any movies – I’m actively looking for some movie treasures – maybe not so well known movies, maybe even low budget ones – it doesn’t matter. What I care about is great plot and acting, that makes me feel intense emotions. Those kind of movies are usually thrillers or dramas and are kind of hard to find. However, today I’m sharing one of the movies I recently watched and enjoyed a lot.

M.F.A movie review

I still have no idea what it’s title “M.F.A.” stands for but I can offer you a short summary of the movie. (Small spoiler alert!) The main character is college art student Noelle (starring Francesca Eastwood), who, at the beginning is just a simple, quiet girl, who’s strieving for success in art but kind of lacks depth in her work. At one night, spent at some party she gets raped by her classmate Luke (starring Peter Vack) . At first she asks for help to her school councelor but soon find out that no one from school or even police  is  going to be on her side and punish Luke. After accidentaly killing him, she finds inspiration for her art and decides to serve justice by herself on similar rape cases nearby.

M.F.A movie review
Scene from M.F.A. (2017)

That was short description of the movie without spoiling it too much for you. Even though a lot of movie reviews say that the plot is basic and should have been more in-depth, I was too amazed by acting of Francesca Eastwood to pay attention to plot flaws. I think there’s no one else, who would’ve starred better than her in the main role. She just had this dark vibe in the movie but viewers could totally sympathize with her character, especially more towards the end. At least I did, kind of thinking: “Damn, she broke a lot of rules but in some way did the right thing.” Other characters in the movie didn’t stand out to me as much overall acting and scenario seemed pretty good to me. That’s all that I’m going to tell you about the movie speaks better about itself than my words ever will.

Overall rating: 9/10 

Click here to watch M.F.A. trailer or go watch a movie, if you’re ready! However, in case you’ve already seen this movie, please let me know your thoughts about it in the comments bellow!

Love, Porcelain Doll.

Why I’m not blogging as much as I used to.

Hello, dear readers! For about first 3 weeks of school year I felt super excited that it’s the last year of school and I have a job which means I’ll finally earn some money myself. Do you know those moments in your life when you’re telling yourself that you’re starting over fresh and you can do anything? I had this moment at the beginning. But then, about 5 weeks later I realized that living the life I want is not completely possible.

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First and the biggest cause of my creative block is school. It’s my 4th year in music high-school which I was impatiently waiting for, somehow hoping that in this year everything will get better. Why shouldn’t it be like that? No more Math lessons which should have meant no more torturous lessons I’m not interested in. Sadly, I was mistaken. In 3rd year of high school at least I had Literature lessons that made me feel inspired and interested and even English that, despite of having a shitty teacher, I still liked as a subject. This year I can’t really name any subject that would fascinate me and I just feel stuck in the wrong place. I know that I am supposed to feel relieved that I have only 7 months left but those are 7 boring months that, honestly feel like a waste of time. I want to read great books, I want to write, travel and study something I’m interested in but I just can’t get out. Not even on weekends – there is still a pile of homework that I have to get done but see no point in it. It’s interesting , how just yesterday I heard in one of Skillshare classes that if you’re having too much stimulation from the outside world, your mind and imagination feels kind of suppressed and you start to feel less creative. That explains my situation a lot. So that’s how my inspiration is taken away. It’s nearly impossible to fake your interest in a subjects that you just don’t care about.

Work tends to be overwhelming. I agreed to take two teaching jobs because I hope that maybe my calling is teaching instead of performing. Of course, I’m thankful for one gifted student of mine and few other that are doing the best they can but working with all other kids that are bored of playing the guitar or don’t have abilities to be good at it is exhausting. Every time I have a lesson with someone, who just not into it, I feel sad that instead of improving my own guitar skills, I’m wasting time with hopeless kid. I’m still wondering, if having two jobs was the right choice for me even more because in one of those workplaces, I’m having a colleague in a higher position, who is very unhelpful and rude person in general.

I don’t know where I want to be in my life but it’s not where I am right now. Please know that I will post when I have some quality content to post and I might not stick to a regular schedule during this school year. However, my heart belongs to writing and I really like my little blog. Huge thanks to everyone, who follows me and cares about the content that I post, it means the world to me. Just so you know – I’m not going anywhere and I’ll do my best to make this blog better but for now it is kind of tricky.

Hopefully I’ll be back soon with some movie reviews and other exciting and positive stuff. Thanks for sticking with me!

Love, Porcelain Doll.