25 life lessons I learned during my high school years.

students at graduation, throwing their hats in the air

Hello, dear readers! This blog post is going live only two days before my graduation. Yes, I’m finally graduating from high school and four years of struggles and breakthroughs are finally over. This period in my life was definitely way better than first nine years in my previous school but not easier at all. Sorry to break it to you but, as you grow up, life doesn’t get easier, however, you do get stronger. If at the age of seven you were sitting in the corner and crying about mean comment someone said to you, then at the age of nineteen you just brush it off and focus on what matters. Since I started my studies at high school, I have learned a lot of lessons about people, living on my own, self-development and school, so today when I’m super close to closing this chapter of my life, I decided to share some high school student’s wisdom with you. Let’s start, shall we?

  1. It is normal to be clueless about your career path in high school. You are not the only one, a lot of your peers don’t know what to do with their life yet, too.
  2. Overcoming anxiety and speaking up in class pays off. It’s better to experience a short moment of embarrassment during one of your lessons that fail the exam.
  3. Growing apart from your old friends is normal. I know that you probably braided friendship bracelets as a kid with this person, spent a lot of hours at their house and promised each other to get matching tattoos but, if this person doesn’t help you grow and/or doesn’t make you happy anymore, it’s time to let go.
  4. Depression is a diagnosis not a life sentence. In a lot of cases you can get better.
  5. Don’t waste your time on getting mad about things you can’t change. Shit happens and sometimes the only option is to move on. So you got played by some dude, who appeared to be Prince Charming at the first sight and now you are hurt. What are you going to do? Waste your energy on trying to teach him a lesson? If his mother couldn’t do that, you won’t be able to either.
  6. First impressions might be false. Maybe in two years you will despise people, who acted like your friends during first two weeks of high school and that’s alright.
  7. Don’t go to buy groceries when you are hungry or too full. In first case scenario you will buy more food than you can possibly eat and in second one you won’t buy enough and be mad about it later.
  8. When it comes to alcohol, know your limit. More alcohol doesn’t always equal more fun. There’s nothing fun about the situation when you are puking your guts out and the force of gravity seems to be irresistible. Believe me, I learned it the hard way.
  9. If you decide to get drunk, make sure there’s someone, who will take care of you when you have had one too many drinks. Nothing is worse than being sick from too much alcohol and seeing that no one around you cares about your wellbeing. Again, trust me, I have experienced that.
  10. Just because you have made a mistake, it doesn’t mean that you are a mistake. We all have done at least one thing that had really bad consequences and that we truly regret but what is done, is done. It’s human to make mistakes and blaming yourself for the rest of your life won’t make anything better.w
  11. Planning and getting more stuff done is cool. Really. Bullet journals are not only a great place to plan your day, month and year but also express your creativity. If it is personalized for your taste, you will be more tempted to use it.
  12. Don’t keep things in your life that make you unhappy. It doesn’t matter, if those are clothes, people you follow on Instagram, pictures of your ex or anything else. If doesn’t bring you joy, get rid of it and focus on what makes you truly happy.
  13. Don’t forget about self-care and don’t feel guilty about having some “me” time. Yes, you deserve those 30 minutes of reading your favorite book even though you still have to study for finals. Don’t drive yourself nuts by prohibiting yourself relaxation. Sleep is not the only type of rest your need.
  14. Appreciate every moment you can spend with your high school friends. Moving away is an exciting and fresh start but leaving high school friends is heart-breaking.
  15. Don’t break up with someone over text. And don’t say “I love you” for the first time through text either. Those things are serious enough to be brought up in person.
  16. Don’t shy away from STD talk. It’s better to be safe than sorry and even if you have STD, be honest about it and also mention all the ways you can prevent it from giving it to your partner.
  17. Don’t be scared to be confused about your sexual orientation. Especially during late teen years and in your 20’s it’s okay to feel curious and feel the need to explore.
  18. When someone has betrayed you and treated you badly, you have two choices – to start treating everyone around you badly or forgive your enemy and spread love in this world. Pick the second option.
  19. It’s okay to communicate with your closest friends only few times a week. The amount of text messages sent doesn’t define the strength of the friendship.
  20. The best teachers are those, who not only can teach the subject very well but also add some life lessons along the way. I have had two teachers in high school, who were like that and I appreciate them with all my heart.
  21. A person’s age has nothing to do with his level of maturity. Some people in their thirties and forties can have the logic of a fifteen year old. *sighs*
  22. Learn to enjoy the time you spend alone. There’s nothing wrong with taking yourself out for a coffee, dinner, concert or an interesting local workshop. In fact, moments like those might help you clear your mind and maybe even get inspired.
  23. Set your eyes on the goal and face your fear. So what if launching that awesome blog you are working on takes hours of research? So what if getting into your dream school means that you need to raise your average grade? Procrastinating because of fear or quitting everything won’t help you to live your dream life. I know you’re scared to take the risk but just do it.
  24. Don’t believe your Math teacher, you won’t use that Pythagorean theorem ever again. Well, unless one day you decide to become a Math teacher yourself.
  25. No matter, how weird you are, you will always find someone, who likes your for who you are. Fitting in isn’t a thing anymore when there are so many different types of people in the world.

I will just end this post here and pat myself on the shoulder because this has definitely been the longest blog post I have ever written on Dolls Have Hearts. What life lessons did you learn in your high school years? Share in the comments below! Until next time!

Love, Porcelain Doll.

 

5 life hacks that will make your student life better.

Three brunette schoolgirls in uniforms, in front of a blackboard

Hello, dear readers! If you’re still in high school or university, it is quite tough time. Balancing healthy lifestyle, good grades, social life and trying to stay sane meanwhile is quite a struggle, so I decided to share some life hacks that have made my life as a student easier.

  1. The “secret” sauce. Are you one of those people, who likes rich dressing on their salad and always buying high calories sauces in the store? I used to be that person until my mum shared the simplest salad dressing with me. Next time you have some salad leaves and tomatoes, add sauce that it made from oil, lemon juice, honey and mustard. I’m not going to note proportions here because some people like their sauce more sour, some more spicy, some sweeter. Just throw it in a cup, mix it up and voila! Now you have a delicious sauce. Besides – you probably already have all the ingredients needed in your house.
  2. Bullet journal – a key to being more productive. I know, you’re probably thinking that you are already productive enough or/and can remember everything that you need to get done during the day without even writing it down. I thought the same way just one year ago until I came across quite a few amazing youtubers, who have talked about productivity and bullet journaling, and that inspired me to improve my life by creating my own bullet journal. I used to hate planning it the past because planners seemed too small and boring to me but the best thing about bullet journal is – you can adjust it to your needs. You can add not only daily but also weekly, monthly and quarterly logs, habit tracker, quarterly goal section, lists of movies to watch, books to read and way more. Just go to Pinterest and look up some ideas.
  3. If you need to learn a new topic in a short amount of time, type: “*insert topic here* filetype: ppt” (for a Power Point presentation) . I’m surprised that I found about this just few days ago. Thankfully, exams are still ahead of me, so this might actually be a real life saver.
  4. Clean out your closet of the clothes that don’t fit anymore, don’t go together with anything, are worn out or simply don’t make you happy anymore. Trust me, this will decrease your chances of being late to a lecture by 85% . Yes, I am talking to you, girls, cause I used to be one of these people, who could decide what to wear in the morning because it seemed like nothing looks good on me. Invest some time and clean out your closet.
  5. If you have a laptop, stop paying for cable TV. Since I started living on my own, which was four years ago, I stopped using TV. Why pay extra, if you can save some money and choose what you want to watch and when do you want to do it?

That’s all for today’s post. One more thing that I would like to share – there is a little less than a month left until I all of my exams and I’m graduating and the second half of June. Currently it is last week before exams start, so I’m quite busy with rehearsals, lessons and homework. That is the reason why my last post are not as long as they used to be but also it kind of inspired me to write this post. Afterall, I am going to be a student at least for three more years but I love to sharing small, pleasant things along the way. Hopefully next week won’t be as busy for me, so I will try to get back to writing lengthy blog posts. Until next time on Dolls Have Hearts!

Love, Porcelain Doll.

5 amazing tips that will increase your productivity instantly.

Blue eyed, young brunette with pale skin in a light blue shirt.

Hello, dear readers! If you are anything like me, you have had big goals as long as you can remember. However, there might be times when you feel tired, unmotivated and just want to procrastinate. Well, you are not the only one, I tend to struggle with this, too. So I decided to take some time to observe and analyze my own behaviour during those times and figure out, how to get out of it. Here are 5 amazing tips I came up with that increased my productivity instantly and can increase yours, too!

  1. Make sure your room / workspace is warm enough. One odd thing I noticed – if it’s too cold in my room, all I want to do is sit under comfy blankets, watch TV series and procrastinate. For a while I didn’t even notice that this is a problem but when I finally did, I realized it’s time to turn that heater on, get out of my bed and get stuff done.
  2. Make sure you don’t have lowered blood pressure. If you do, get some coffee. This is a huge one for me. I used to feel tired almost every day for years and couldn’t figure out why. One day my doctor told me that it might be because most of the time I have lowered blood pressure. That turned out to be the reason why I wanted to sleep most of the time and felt exhausted. How did I fight this? Simple, with coffee. I know that some people are pretty skeptical about it, mostly because of the thing called “caffeine hangover” which tends to have similar effects as alcohol hangover. I experienced only once in my life, after about 5 or 6 cups of coffee when I really wanted to be creative & productive. So, friendly advice – don’t drink more than 3 cups of coffee a day.
  3. Make a to do list. This might be such a cliché but it actually helps me. Every morning I make to do list and try to cross out aismany things as possible that day. Somehow it us super fun for me. And, as someone, who used to struggle with depression, this is a great thing for me. Now I can realistically look back at what I have done that day and say: “Wow, I was very productive today!”Create a Girlboss (or Guyboss) playlist. It’s crazy how much music can affect your mood. If I have some sad, calm songs in the background, I honestly feel like crying instead of getting stuff done. Sad music might be acceptable only when I’m painting or drawing (sometimes). In case you need some ideas about songs that will make you feel pumped, check out my “Playlist of a Girlboss” on Spotify here:
  4. Stop over thinking and complaining, just start doing it. It’s crazy, how much time we spend wondering, if we should really do something and trying to find reasons for procrastination or not doing it at all. The best way, how to do something is just to get up and do it. Turn off all the thoughts that make you want to procrastinate or doubt yourself and just get to work!
  5. Plan a day or few every month for relaxation or a quick getaway. It doesn’t matter, if you go to school, work or do both – this routine can be exhausting. Every week is pretty much the same and, especially if you have to do something on weekends, burnout can become a real threat when you don’t plan some time for recharging. Only since September I planned some “off days” in my monthly schedule and it has been very helpful. My stress levels are not as high anymore and I don’t get ill as often.

Those are all the productivity tips I have for you today, that I have tried myself. It would be easy just to look something up on the internet but sharing my experience seems way more genuine. Have you tried any of these productivity tips? Or maybe you have your own favorite productivity tips? Share in the comment section!

Until next time on dollshavehearts.com !

Love, Porcelain Doll.