5 things to do when you’ve hit the rock bottom.

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Hello, dear readers! Growing up feels a lot like leveling up in a certain game – challenges get harder with every level. In some days you feel like you have it all figured out and you know, how to “play this game” but at some you feel like you are failing completely. Maybe you just got broken up with, fired, manipulated, lied to, lost your best friend, lost the money, got cheated on, faced sudden and serious health problems – whatever it is, sometimes it feels like you have reached the rock bottom and there is no going back. However, if you are in that mindset right now, I’m here to help you to dig yourself out of that hole. There is a way out and it’s only too late when you’re dead. Here are five things you can do when it feels like you’re in an incredibly bad situation and it feels like it won’t ever get better.

  1. Cry it out and pour a glass of wine. Bottling up emotions has never done anything good, so let it all out. You can ask for a friend to come over. Wine is optional but sometimes it helps to get your thoughts out, feel good and relax.
  2. Realize what makes you upset, what caused this unpleasant situation and figure out, if you can do something about it. For example, you just found out you have an STD. What caused it? This time it was a dishonest partner, who you really trusted. Did you had “the talk” before you decided to have sex with them? You did. How could you knew that they weren’t honest with you? You couldn’t. What can you do? Get a treatment, if there is one and talk to your partner about it. What if there is no treatment? You do your research on how to live with it and connect with other people, who are in the same situation as you are to receive some emotional support. What if your partner denies everything, puts the blame on you or simply vanishes? As painful as it is – you have learned the lesson that it is not the type of person you want to be with. You can’t return to the past and change what happened then but you can figure out all the ways you can make your future better. Remember: you are not defined by the mistakes you made.
  3. Accept the fact that healing takes time and be gentle to yourself. It’s okay to make mistakes and no one is perfect. Everyone in this world has screwed up some way. Most people have learned from their mistakes and moved on. For some moving on is easier, for some harder but it is possible. Be gentle to yourself, putting blame on yourself doesn’t help to change the past, even more – it ruins the future, if you keep living with this negative vibe forever.
  4. Dry your tears and brainstorm for ways on how to get better. The fact that you have been in an abusive relationship, doesn’t mean that every future relationship you have will be the same or that you won’t be able to be in a relationship at all. The fact that you have went to ten job interviews and got denied on every single one doesn’t mean that you will never get a job that you like. Usually you have to reach the rock bottom to see the light at the end of the tunnel soon afterwards. Sometimes good things happen when you least expect them, so keep trying.
  5. Take the next step. It’s not easy to go on with your life after a huge downfall but that’s the way life is – ups and downs are inevitable. However, looking from the bright side – if you would never experience any rock bottoms, you would never know, how good it feels to reach the top. Also, the problems that we face, the mistakes that we learn from – it all makes us stronger at the end. Practice doesn’t make us perfect but it definitely makes us better. Life is like an improvisation – you might not know what is going to happen next but you can learn to adapt to different situations and get back up faster, when you fall down.

That’s it for today’s blog post on Dolls Have Hearts. Wish me luck on finding a great summer job and I’ll see you next week when hopefully I will be already employed.

Love, Porcelain Doll.

5 amazing tips that will increase your productivity instantly.

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Hello, dear readers! If you are anything like me, you have had big goals as long as you can remember. However, there might be times when you feel tired, unmotivated and just want to procrastinate. Well, you are not the only one, I tend to struggle with this, too. So I decided to take some time to observe and analyze my own behaviour during those times and figure out, how to get out of it. Here are 5 amazing tips I came up with that increased my productivity instantly and can increase yours, too!

  1. Make sure your room / workspace is warm enough. One odd thing I noticed – if it’s too cold in my room, all I want to do is sit under comfy blankets, watch TV series and procrastinate. For a while I didn’t even notice that this is a problem but when I finally did, I realized it’s time to turn that heater on, get out of my bed and get stuff done.
  2. Make sure you don’t have lowered blood pressure. If you do, get some coffee. This is a huge one for me. I used to feel tired almost every day for years and couldn’t figure out why. One day my doctor told me that it might be because most of the time I have lowered blood pressure. That turned out to be the reason why I wanted to sleep most of the time and felt exhausted. How did I fight this? Simple, with coffee. I know that some people are pretty skeptical about it, mostly because of the thing called “caffeine hangover” which tends to have similar effects as alcohol hangover. I experienced only once in my life, after about 5 or 6 cups of coffee when I really wanted to be creative & productive. So, friendly advice – don’t drink more than 3 cups of coffee a day.
  3. Make a to do list. This might be such a cliché but it actually helps me. Every morning I make to do list and try to cross out aismany things as possible that day. Somehow it us super fun for me. And, as someone, who used to struggle with depression, this is a great thing for me. Now I can realistically look back at what I have done that day and say: “Wow, I was very productive today!”Create a Girlboss (or Guyboss) playlist. It’s crazy how much music can affect your mood. If I have some sad, calm songs in the background, I honestly feel like crying instead of getting stuff done. Sad music might be acceptable only when I’m painting or drawing (sometimes). In case you need some ideas about songs that will make you feel pumped, check out my “Playlist of a Girlboss” on Spotify here:
  4. Stop over thinking and complaining, just start doing it. It’s crazy, how much time we spend wondering, if we should really do something and trying to find reasons for procrastination or not doing it at all. The best way, how to do something is just to get up and do it. Turn off all the thoughts that make you want to procrastinate or doubt yourself and just get to work!
  5. Plan a day or few every month for relaxation or a quick getaway. It doesn’t matter, if you go to school, work or do both – this routine can be exhausting. Every week is pretty much the same and, especially if you have to do something on weekends, burnout can become a real threat when you don’t plan some time for recharging. Only since September I planned some “off days” in my monthly schedule and it has been very helpful. My stress levels are not as high anymore and I don’t get ill as often.

Those are all the productivity tips I have for you today, that I have tried myself. It would be easy just to look something up on the internet but sharing my experience seems way more genuine. Have you tried any of these productivity tips? Or maybe you have your own favorite productivity tips? Share in the comment section!

Until next time on dollshavehearts.com !

Love, Porcelain Doll.